Relationships: a Seven-Step Rescue Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner
It is tough breaking up with your partner, especially if the two of you have been through a lot. Many of you have considered reinitiating a get-together, but it’s not always easy. Below is one seven-step rescue strategy for reconnecting with your partner:
1) Consider what happened in the relationship that caused you and your partner to split. This will give you insight into where the problem lies and what needs to be addressed. This may take time to mull over, as it should.
2) Talk with someone close or a professional to vent and get objective feedback.
3) Give it time, especially if tensions are high. Let things calm down and sooth over for a while, but don’t wait too long. Plan an appropriate, attention-getting approach, based on your partner’s personality. Do something that will appeal to your partner’s sense of fairness, reason and sensitivity. Wait for the right time; timing is everything.
4) Make arrangements for a meeting. Go all out, but prepare carefully so nothing is forgotten. Buy or make a card, as well as, perhaps, a bottle of her or his favorite wine. Another idea is to buy a gift, such as the new CD she or he wanted but wasn’t able to buy. Further, make reservations at your restaurant (“your” means both of you, as a couple) or some other special place.
5) Prepare a speech, but not word-for-word, otherwise it will sound contrived. Speak from the heart. Make sure it takes into account your partner’s values and feelings, and that it addresses the conclusions ascertained in Step One of this list.
6) Once the plans are set, contact your partner, annouce the plan and invite her or him to the location. Make sure that you address her or him warmly, softly, and gently.
7) Meet your partner, recite your speech from your heart, present your gifts, and, most of all—listen! Make your partner’s thoughts and feelings the central part of the meeting, and let her or him know that you take them seriously.
If all goes well, this seven-step rescue strategy for reconnecting with your partner will work. Have faith and good luck!